Christmas Helper

Hello again.  I'm back sooner than I thought I would be.  I recently made a decision for myself that I wasn't sure I would want to do but I thought it over for a few days and decided this year I am going to get back into my baking and work out my frustrations with some cookie dough!  It has been a long time since I have really just let myself dive into it and do what makes me happy so that's it!  I can't wait!

I need some ideas from you friends.  Last year when Q was taking radiation treatments at the John Stoddard Cancer Center, I always sat in the waiting room (with the exception of a couple of times someone else took him) and watched The Price is Right with the other family members waiting for their loved one to come out.  One day shortly before Christmas, the receptionist came out and sat beside me.  She handed me a little basket that came from Thirty One and it was filled with gum, mints, word search puzzles, joke books and just many little items that make a person smile.  She told me that a gal had donated a dozen of them to hand out, at their choosing, to give to someone waiting for their loved one because this gal had sat and waited for her Grandma many times.  

I was so honored to receive such a sweet little gift from a complete stranger; from a group of people that didn't even know me, but felt I was deserving.  It was so sweet and I will never forget it.  Now I want to return that favor.  While I don't want to break the bank on this project, I would like ideas on what to do for some of those people that sit and wait for their loved ones getting their treatments.  After all, they suffer too and they need smiles put on their faces when they least expect it.  If I can come up with something really special, I may do both radiation and chemo departments.  

The John Stoddard Cancer Center showed Q and I such honest and loving care.  We never encountered staff that acted like they didn't want to be there.  They all had heart and we were always very comfortable there (as comfortable as one can be).

I'm keeping this one short so any ideas are appreciated!  Comment here or on my Facebook or private message me.  All ideas considered!

Lost on Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving 2021 to all!  I hope you had a Blessed day with family or friends and if you didn't, I hope you found some joy in your day.  I spent the day in my hometown with most of my family and we had a great time.  A lot of laughs and a lot of food but when it's Thanksgiving, the food part is considered a norm.  

Honestly, I have been dreading this day for a while.  The thought of being around a large group of people gives me anxiety.  Ever since Q left my world, large groups just aren't for me.  Even Walmart is uncomfortable.  Especially on weekends. Anyway, I made Texas Roadhouse rolls and they were good but they sure didn't cut well.  They looked like someone took a hacksaw to them.  I think I cut them too soon.  And that Texas Roadhouse butter... you can't beat it.  I made it for the first time and it was GOOD!  I also made a roaster of chicken and noodles and they were good too.  But, they looked like a couple of kindergartners threw them in a pot, but hey...we can't win them all.  I feel like I can't cook or bake anything with any confidence anymore.  As long as I don't poison anyone,  I will take it as a win in my book.  For now.  I hope to get back to the level of cooking and baking that I used to do.  I thank God for the people around me that helped my food along.  

While I had such a great time being around those that I love so much, I left with a heavy heart and I felt quite numb.  I feel like people feel like they need to be careful around me.  I don't want people to feel that way.  If someone wants to ask questions about him, I will be glad to talk about him.  Let's just not talk about the ring ceremony thing, ok?  That's my huge struggle.  I hope someday to be able to talk about that without getting upset.  Someday.  Q and I didn't always spend our holidays together.  I'm telling you that if there was any hunting that could be done, I was on my own.  And he was never into sports so watching football was never fun for him but he did love to go see all the kids and play with them.  So the part of him not being by my side wasn't so bad.  It was the part where I didn't receive a call and hearing "Hey babe..." I can still hear his voice saying it. No text telling me some excited news from his adventures.  He sure made me smile.  He still makes me smile.  God I miss that man in my life.  I know he is in such a great place but I'm still lost at finding my place in this world.

I made a stop at the Lake of Three Fires and watched the geese for a little bit and just talked to Q and cried for a little bit.  It was refreshing and the wind had died down just enough to be able to be outside and enjoy it.  With his help from above, we came to a decision on what to do with our wedding rings when the times comes and that made my heart so happy.  Then on to my girl's house to meet her grandsons and just take a breather from life.  

It was a good day.  But I'm glad it only comes around once a year.  Now to prepare myself for the Christmas holidays.  I can breathe a little sigh of relief that I will be at work over Christmas so that will be a good distraction.  I love Christmas though so it should be bittersweet.  I keep telling these dogs to be good because Santa is watching.  Of course, I didn't say that until they destroyed some items that I can't replace but what can you do, right?  Well, since I threatened Santa, they have been angels.  I hope they can keep that up.  After that, I don't know what I will hold over their heads to behave.  Cupid?  That little Irish man?  I don't know, I will think of something.

Changing the subject now...

Do you have something in your home that your friends think you get a little over the top about?  Currently, my thing is shower curtains.  Sounds hilarious, doesn't it?  Well, I like shower curtains and I like to change them out for every season.  This just started when I knew I was going to be moving to town.  I have a regular shower curtain; a fall shower curtain; a Christmas shower curtain; an Easter shower curtain; 4th of July shower curtain.  I'm on the hunt for a Valentine's day shower curtain.  Weird, huh?  And with every shower curtain, calls for matching hooks because what fun would it be to have the same hooks year round?  I don't know why the sudden urge for these things but I do love them.  Maybe I just need some new scenery when I'm doing my business.  I should get a shower curtain with a picture of these three little monsters of mine.  I wonder what they would think of that!  The thought makes me giggle.

And I'm not going to lie, with every shower curtain, there is a matching valance and a matching rug.  I'm impossible but it makes me feel good.  Anyway, who says my friends aren't just boring and I'm just that fun, right??  What is your weird?

I don't even know what to talk about here but I am going to keep plugging away until you have been bored out of your minds.

I binge watched 3 seasons of Yellowstone in 2 1/2 days last week.  That was something I said I wasn't going to do.  No interest.  I don't like cowboys.  I'm terrified of horses. Sounds bland.  I have never liked westerns.  But I felt like every day someone was asking "Do you watch Yellowstone?"  or "What do you think is going to happen next on Yellowstone?"  Oh the horror!  But I remembered when my boss told me to watch The Walking Dead and I loved it.  At least for the first several seasons.  After a while, it was just the same thing every episode so that fizzled out.  I don't even care for that anymore.  I couldn't even tell you if it was still on!  HA! 

Anyway, so I couldn't stop watching this show after I forced myself to watch the first 2 episodes.  I am not a Beth Dutton fan but I sure do like Rip.  So I guess I like cowboys after all!!  I still don't like those horses though.  I need to expand my horizons on the shows though.  I don't have Netflix.  I don't have Hulu.  But I do have a stupid Roku TV and I do have Paramount+ and Peacock.  Now I just don't know what to watch! I can tell you that I am sick and tired of "Minute to Win It" and whatever that poker show is where you have to answer questions to get to 21 in cards.  

Last month, I started watching Bar Rescue from the beginning.  I got through 6 seasons and I feel like I know exactly the correct way to clean a bar and kitchen.  Not that I thought cleaning would ever be a problem but if I owned a bar, I would be terrified to have Jon Taffer come into my world.  Absolutely terrified.  I noticed after I started watching Bar Rescue, I started cooking more.  And then I started watching Hoarders from the beginning and then the house cleaning ensued and before you knew it, all my totes and boxes were emptied and put away.  I think I need to binge watch something about eating healthy now because I eat like crap.  

What is/was your favorite binge worthy show?

I guess I will close for now until some other subject pops up that I have an opinion about or that is quirky.  I am getting there.  I'm just lost a little bit.

I'm okay. We're okay.

 Well, I find myself back here.  I'm not sure what to do or what to blog about but I have been told by several to just do it.  Jump in and just start typing.

As many of you know, I lost my husband in May of this year.  Quintin was diagnosed a year ago, November 12th, 2020, with esophageal cancer.  He was 38 at the time.  He had a tumor in his esophagus that was full of cancer and it was just long enough that they could not go in and remove it.  The lymph nodes in his esophagus were full of cancer, as well as the top of his abdomen and into his liver.  He had what was called "cancer fluid" on the outside of his right lung but never penetrated, thankfully.  

He went through 5 weeks of radiation and in time the tumor shrunk. He also did a round and a half of chemo.  First round was 4 treatments and they were rough.  He was so sick and had no life outside of our bed.  He couldn't eat of course so they had to put in a feeding tube and he hated that but he did it because he had to have nutrition.  It was so rough watching him go through this.  After his first round of chemo, they did a scan to see if it looked like it was helping.  And it did look like it was helping! He had decided he wasn't going to do another treatment because of how sick he was.  He couldn't go anywhere.  He couldn't visit anyone.  He couldn't even go outside and do much because he would be so sick and he told me that wasn't how he wanted to go out.  

So, 2 more treatments and he physically could not handle it anymore.  He told them he was done for the time being.  After all, it was hunting season and he wasn't going to miss getting a turkey for the last time.  Priorities, right??  So off he went to find his Tom Turkey.  I can't remember if it was the first day or the second day but on one of those days I got a phone call from him.  "I'm on my way to the hospital.  Can you meet me there?"  It's not like it was the first time he had been there.  Heck, when he got his scan results telling him his liver was ate up, he was in the hospital and thanks to COVID, I wasn't even allowed to be with him to grieve with him.  We had to do that on video chat.  So unfair.  

So on that day when he was hunting, I found out that he had went to take a pee and noticed his urine was abnormally dark that day.  It was something we kept an eye on but it was dark enough he knew something was wrong.  He asked his buddy that he was with if he looked ok and his friend said he was REALLY yellow and he thought they should take him to the hospital.  So I met them there and they did some more tests and conferred with his medical team at Methodist and the worst news, although we knew it was coming, that he was in liver failure.  When that doctor told us, I thought I was going to faint.  I looked at Q and he just sighed a big sigh and said "Well, now what?"  The doctor said "Go hunting!  Go live."

I don't know how far down the line that was but we knew the clock was ticking.  He pretty much got what he wanted and got to do whatever he wanted from that point on.  "You can't" was no longer in my vocabulary because he was already getting the short end of the stick of life.  

Six months and 11 days was all we had to prepare ourselves to never see each other again; to never say "Hey babe" again; to never tell each other "I love you" again; to never get to kiss each other good night.  What I wouldn't give to have it all back with him happy and healthy but that just wasn't in the cards.  

There was a lot that went on in between this stuff but it's hard to remember timelines without digging out a bunch of notebooks that I have conveniently put out of mind for this very reason.  I can't live each day remembering every detail or I am going to drive myself insane.  And I don't know why I am here telling all this.  The majority of the people that will read this is on my Facebook and they read it as we went through it.  I guess this is just where my mind wanted to start.

I have been going through "firsts" and they suck!  The hardest first I have had was coming home from work and not hearing "Hey babe" when I walked in the door.  I had heard it every time I came in for the past 12 years.  That was a hard pill to swallow.  There were days on end that I would sit in my recliner, holding all three dogs on my lap, and just watch the door.  Waiting for this poorly executed joke to come to an end so I could have my life back.  

I know we all say "I can't live without you," but sometimes we have to.  We don't have a choice.  Life doesn't stop because a person stopped breathing.  The world doesn't stop moving because you are one less.  And it's a whole different life.  All the hopes and dreams and goals that Quintin and I had were now just my hopes and dreams and goals.  I didn't have ...don't have someone by my side to make that magic happen anymore.  So the hopes change and the dreams change and the goals as well and it's a sad, sad existence some days.

I talk to Quintin a lot.  When I'm frustrated because I'm failing at something I call out and ask him to help me and he does.  It's strange to say but he really does.  In little time a solution presents itself and that makes me smile.  I know he is here with me and encouraging me just like he always has been.  I can't see him but he is here and he is smiling because he knows I am doing it.  I am living and taking care of these three little monsters of ours and we are going to be okay.

Over the course of the past five and a half months, I have seen completely new sides to people that I thought I knew.  Both good sides and bad sides.  I have lashed out at people for the right reasons and for the wrong reasons and I have learned once again, that there are people who claim to love you but aren't willing to accept apologies. But you know what?  All that does is make me stronger and it takes so much drama out of my life!  

I have learned that not everything is worth saving. Whether it is some kind of relationship or some kind of trinket.  Not everything has to mean something.  I am learning that I have to watch both my front and my back because I don't have anyone here with me to do what Quintin did.  If I needed something, he was right there or he had a solution.  Now it's my turn to do that and make him smile down from the Heavens!  

I learned that I am not a country girl.  No thank you.  That was Quintin's dream and as long as he was there, I was proud to be by his side doing whatever needed but without him, that is no longer a dream for me.  I like living in town and the dogs have adapted pretty well.  But let me tell you something... for the short few years we lived away from town, I got pretty accustomed to the quietness of the country (except that wind that some days seemed like it was going to blow the house down) so when we moved to town, I said to the dogs, several times a day, "It sure is noisy in town."  How easily I had forgotten that!  

Some days I my personal fuse is tremendously short and that frustrates me.  Little things irritate me.  I was driving through Orient the other day and it was really windy and I was headed out of town, there were 2 trash cans that had blown out into the road.  Cars and trucks going both ways, slowing down to go around them and that irritated me. I slammed my car in park right in the middle of that highway, turned on my flashers and got out and moved both trash cans back to the nearest yard.  A guy sat in his truck and when I walked back to my car he rolled his window down and said "You need help?"  Are you freaking kidding me dude???  "I figured nobody else was going to get out and do anything so this seems like the obvious thing to do!"  Got back in my car and drove off with my middle finger in the air.  

Some days my emotions get the best of me.  I cry watching Bar Rescue if you believe that so I quit watching it.  You can only cry so many times about a bar getting cleaned up before you know this isn't for you.  Songs on the radio make me cry a lot.  I have learned to just let the tears roll and keep singing.  

I have a group that I has helped me and I have learned a lot from my "widowed sisters."  I have learned that it is okay to cry.  It's okay to be emotional about anything.  It's okay to stay in when the world wants you to be out. Nobody can tell you how you feel at any time and when you are grieving, nobody can help you through it if they haven't been through it themselves.  I believe that with every being of my soul.  Death is hard and the relationship you have with the deceased is different.  Whether it be your spouse, your child, your parent, your sibling... it is going to be a different grief.  And I'm experiencing mine.  The first person that tells me I need to get over it and move on will probably get punched in the face.  I will never get over this loss but I am moving on and I will be okay.  

I just need to learn to live without Quintin's physical presence.  I'm okay.  We're okay.  I am lost a lot of days.  I find I still have what they call Widow Brain.  It's a thing.  Look it up.  Someday I won't have it and that will be great but I will keep taking my punches as they come.

We are living our best life right now and that will just have to be enough.  The holidays are coming up and what I would love to do is hide from the world but I'm not going to do that.  I'm going to celebrate it with the people I love and the people who love me.  And I will smile and I will cry, but I will get through it and be okay.

I'm lost but I am finding my new self slowly.  I am not the same person I was once.  I have no desire to road trip or vacation or even take overnight trips.  I just want to be me in my new world and there are a few less people now to explain that too and it's amazing.  

I think I got it all off my chest.  Hopefully I will get back to this blogging business sooner rather than later because I really do enjoy it.  I will get some lighter material to slide in next time (I hope).  Until next time friends.  Thanks for reading.

This is a short snippet of a blog that was started back in April 2021.  Life was getting very rough so I imagine that is how I didn't get back to it.  And the fact that my heart was ripping from my very chest on a daily basis until it went to an hourly basis, I forgot about a lot of stuff along the way.  So feel free to read and don't anyone take too much personally.  It was hard to navigate life and death and the same time.

It's been a while since I've been here and it's the first time I've been here since hubby got diagnosed.  I usually do my updates on Facebook but I thought I would change it up a little since every time I think about stuff it leads to other topics.

So the last time I updated about Q, I said that the lesions on his liver were about 1/2 the size from when he first got diagnosed after just three chemo treatments.  He had already decided, before that appointment and before that scan, that he was done with chemo.  Days on end being sick and exhausted and having no life.  He wasn't going to go out like that.  Well, when we got those results back he decided he needed to try some more.  So he signed up for four more treatments.  Three of those treatments are done and in the books but the last one is going to have to wait until after turkey hunting season.  He isn't going to miss the funnest part of hunting season for nothing.  I am not going to stand in his way of that and I won't let anyone else either.

Many of you have talked to Q or seen him out and about and many of you have told me how good he looks.  We appreciate that.  He doesn't go out and about if he isn't feeling good and although we have been through this once, we are going through it again.  I have tried to mentally prepare myself for this very thing but I don't know that a person can prepare for it.  He is deteriorating; which I guess we all knew it was going to happen eventually.  I am just totally unprepared for it.  

I have spent day-after-day, night-after-night wondering if I would be able to recognize certain signs when it came to his health.  Questioning every move I make to help him.  His good days were so good that I was almost able to forget the bad parts for a little bit.  Now that he is back on the chemo, life is back to sadness, sickness and sleeping.  Not just for him but for me too.  It is so much easier to keep it in the shadows so we literally sleep anytime we can.  

We should be working on our house but we aren't.  Of course, right now he can't do much without paying for it over the next five days.  I have been struggling with finding a place to cry.  I refuse to let loose in front of him.  He worries enough the way it is.  He worries about what is going to happen to me and the dogs when he is gone.  Quintin is my home.  No matter where he is at, he is my home.  I tell him everyday.  

I tried crying in the shower.  It upset Wall-E and Matilda and they went and got Q's attention, so I told him the dogs were crazy.  Lord knows I can't cry on the drive home.  There are way too many deer for that!  So I'm still searching for that place.  When I find it, I will know.  I just hope I can unload when that happens.  I don't want sympathy.  I just want to type it all out.  I don't need any assurances that what I am doing or how I am feeling is normal because that doesn't matter to me.  I will go through whatever my heart and soul take me through.  But I am going to do it with strength.

Going through this has shown us a lot of things about those we love.  It doesn't matter the relationship, whether it is family or close friend, Q and I have both experienced the "pull away" in more than one way.  We both have had people in our lives that currently only talk to us if we reach out and call them.  They just don't call us.  We have had friends that decide for us that we have enough on our plates so they stop telling us about their lives.  I have already threatened one friend that she might have to wait a week until after something happens in our lives to even know about it. Nothing infuriates me more than someone telling me that I have enough on my plate.  GFY with that stuff!  I don't decide for you and you will not decide for me.  

The COVID experience

Yesterday morning, my husband went in for a scope on his stomach. He hasnt been feeling good for quite a while so after ruling everything else out, they believe he has an ulcer. Welcome to my world dear husband. 

We got up and going before the butt-crack of dawn after I got off at midnight the night before and had to "sleep" on the couch because my youngest pup had babies a few days ago and I wont make her spend a whole night alone. Since I had to get up at 5am, it just made sense. And it didnt help that a small snowstorm had blown through so the roads sucked a little bit. Both going home from work and a few hours later going to the hospital.

Hubby gets checked in, gets labs taken, rapid COVID swab and we are escorted to a room where he gets changed out and ready to find some answers. We chat about the nice socks, sexy gown and cool cap he gets to wear. Of course Im jealous! I havent had my share of those things in the past year and a half! Yeah, right!!

*Knock knock* the nurse opens the door a crack and looks at my husband, "Guess what?" He looks at her and kinda laughs and says "You're fucking with me." At this point I was oblivious to just what was going on. I felt like I was watching a tennis match. Back and forth until SOMEONE makes the point. 

He is COVID positive. 

No, no, no, no, no. 

He feels fine. 

He didnt even have a fever when we came in. 

No cough; not one symptom. 

He is pissed about having to miss work.

Oh God, he has to tell his boss.

This is going to go over like a lead balloon.

While he is getting dressed and testing out every cuss word he has ever heard, my mind was going a million miles a minute. 

I cant have this.

I dont want to find out I took this to work.

I cant miss work.

Oh Lord. I. Can. NOT. Miss. Work. 

No.

My boss is going to have a breakdown.

I bet my eyes were as wide as they could be. "I need a test. I work at the Sheriffs Office. Lets not get me in trouble with the Sheriff." She tells us where to go so I can get a test done and off we go.

I get the test and we head home to wait for the news. I started cleaning the kitchen to keep my mind busy while barking orders at my husband that just because he has COVID, he isnt sick so this isnt going to be a vacation. He kept saying that he felt fine. I kept saying I felt terrible. He had results. I didnt. I was mentally preparing for the worst.

After a while, I hadnt heard anything so I called the hospital who transferred me to public health. "You are negative but you need to wear a mask everywhere outside your house for 2 weeks. You can not go into any public buildings for 2 weeks so find someone to grocery shop for you." Not one mention of work. Hello??? "Follow your employers protocol." Here's the funny part. Our freaking protocol is to go by public health advice. I felt like I had just got sucked into a vacuum. 

The boss would figure it out. Told me to plan on having the day off (yep, I was scheduled to work that day) and he would get back to me. When he did, he told me to plan for 2 weeks off. My heart sank. 

I'm that girl that struggles with more than 2 days off in a row unless I am out of town. I love my job and I do not like to miss. I hate using sick time. I know; that's what it's for BUT the way my life changed at year 49, I need all that sick time. 

Just. In. Case. 

Be prepared for anything.

Oh, did I mention that hubby's supervisor tested positive as well??  I told the hubs that it is pretty sad he is more intimate with his supervisor than he is with me. He didnt like that but I sure got a good laugh out of it. 

Working opposite shifts has probably helped me but I have thought from the beginning of this stupid mess that I already had it. Me and a few others at the office. 

So now, we have had two days together, stuck in this house. TWO. He has eight to go. I have twelve. Remember when this pandemic first started and people were forced to stay home? I was envious for about a minute but thought there would be no way we would make it through.

Well, here we are!!! One of hubs co-workers told me not to kill him in the next 2 weeks. I said fine but after that, all bets are off.

Please dont send cards or messages hoping he (or we) get to feeling better. We both feel great but our sleep schedules are really going to suck when life goes back to normal. We are good on everyday groceries and toilet paper and yeast and peanut butter. Thanks to my bestie for getting us some drinks from the c-store today. God Bless You. That is probably tge only thing we will ever need someone to get for us, luckily.

If we get to feeling bad, I will update everyone. I know lots of people are entrigued about how people feel as they gothrough this. I feel trapped. Does that help? Our report should be pretty boring as long as we dont develop any symptoms.

We were able to go into town today and vote from our car. I felt like a lepper but those gals in the Guthrie County Courthouse are and always have been amazing to work with. So that's done.

For those of you that say "At least you have puppies to play with while you are stuck at home," their eyes arent even open yet so they arent that much fun. And momma is pretty proud of them and very much all about them NOT being around the sperm donor or that old bitch that growls at night. Not me, but Eva. So if we want to hold them now, we have to go sit in her 4x4 welping box and that is not comfortable!! 

Well, it took a quarantine, but I finally got hubs to sit down and work on this crazy ass puzzle. We are making pretty good progress on it. Who knows, we may finish it tomorrow. We better pace ourselves. I dont want to run out of stuff to do. Sure cant bake anything because I couldnt share it with anyone in good conscious. 

Stay tuned. We will see how this goes.

Have love in your heart

Well, hello there!  Fancy meeting you here.  It's been a little while so thought I would pop in and tell you a story.  The purpose of the story is at the end.  I mean the main purpose of the story.  Sometimes I surprise myself at what comes out of my own mouth.  It's usually bad...or embarrassing...or dumb....usually sarcastic.  Sometimes though, it is so right on, it makes me think someone is speaking for me!

Recently, on my way home from work around midnight forty, I came across a car that had obviously hit a deer.  Well, let's be fair; I saw the deer blood all over the road and then some car parts on the left side of the interstate and then the car itself was on the shoulder on the right side with both back hazard lights clearly turned on for the world to see. California plates so they aren't local by any means.  It didn't take much to deduce what had happened.   

I pulled over to the right, in front of the damaged car, turned on my flashers and got out after making sure no vehicles were coming up behind us.  I walked to the car and approached the driver's door and asked if they were ok.  The female in the drivers seat tried to open the door but it was too heavily damaged but she could crack it just enough to say they were ok but getting cold.  I told her that I am a 911 dispatcher and where I worked and I would gladly give them a ride into the next town so they could get a motel room.  She thanked me and I could see that three young ladies were in the car with her.  I told her not to try to open the door and everybody needs to exit the car from the passenger side due to traffic not getting over.

DUE TO TRAFFIC NOT GETTING OVER.  FOR TWO CARS WITH HAZARD LIGHTS ON.  UN-FREAKING-BELIEVABLE!  IF YOU DON'T GET OVER FOR ANY VEHICLE ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD, AT THE VERY LEAST SLOW DOWN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN OR SURRENDER YOUR DRIVERS LICENSE.  HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF THAT WAS SOMEONE YOU LOVED AND YOUR CARELESSNESS GOT THEM HURT OR KILLED?

So the woman and her three daughters (this info was confirmed) started grabbing things around them.  The youngest of the group, possibly around 8 years old, got out and took her blankets and pillow and put them in the back of my car.  She looked at me and said "What do you want me to do with these?"  I looked down and she had either a small tablet or a large cell phone.  "You keep hold of that."  She started to cry and I asked her if she was ok.  She shook her head yes and I asked if she was scared.  She said yes and then started crying.  "Keep that in your coat pocket and get in the car and get warm.  Your tears are going to freeze to your face.  I am here to help and I have the heater going for you."  I opened up the back door and she crawled in.  

I went back and helped them get their belongings and put them in my car.  We took everything they could fit in there.  Backpacks of clothes, shoes, blankets, pillows, sacks of snacks and food.  I think they only thing we left in that car was their trash and a notebook.  They thanked me about a hundred times if they thanked me once.  I turned on my flashlight at one point to look at the extensive damage to her car and of course, blood and hair everywhere.  They may have gasped a couple of times and I said it's just part of the animal so it's ok.  We got the car loaded and the driver asked if she could go back and take pictures of her car.  Of course you can!  

While she was taking pictures, the middle (in age, maybe 12) gal said to me, "So you are a 911 dispatcher?"  I turned to her and said "Yep!"  She smiled at me and was very curious and I think if we would have had much of a car ride, there would have been a whole conversation about my job and she said "How did you become a 911 dispatcher?  Do you need to go to school for it?"  I explained to her that there is training involved with the job but there isn't a college course that can prepare anyone for the things a dispatcher does or hears and a lot of it is about multi-tasking.  She took in every single word I spoke and then said "I want to be a 911 dispatcher so I can help people like you do."  If that just doesn't melt your heart and make you feel proud of yourself, what would?  I looked her right in the eye and said these words to her.....

"That is great but remember, you don't have to be a 911 dispatcher to help people.  You just have to have love in your heart."  Her mom then got in the car and we went to town.  The whole way I wondered where that came from.  I got them safely to a motel and helped them unload their belongings into the room.  I wrote down all the location information of her accident (for her insurance and the tow truck) and wrote down the number to the sheriff's office if she needed us for anything else and I was on my way home.

I slept so good knowing they were off the road, warm and safe.   

I did not write this for any accolades.  I wrote this because that little girl made me believe in myself again; not only as a dispatcher but as a human being who cares about others.  We need to reach out more and give people a hand up and if they need a hand out, give that to them too.  There will always be someone out there worse off than you.  Always.  If you need my help, let me know.  I will try my best.  I hope you will too.

Wedding Day

Raise your glass and let's make a toast. The big day is finally here. A lot of talking, planning, shopping, arranging, re-arranging. And it is here. The day we have all been waiting for. 

*brakes screeching* 

Hold the phone.....

The day Dana and Drew have been waiting for. I wont lie, I have been ready to get this over with for a LONG time. 

This gal walked into my life 5 or 6 years ago and I wasnt looking for a friend. I had plenty.  Sometimes she turns life around for me. Sometimes "around" means upside down too. I wouldnt have it any other way though. 

Dana is silly. I get a kick out of hearing about the dog's colors or her children's collaring books. You read it right. That's how she tells it. I love discussing road tripping with her and hope someday to visit this magical place called Minionapolos. Sounds amazing! 

Dana came to work with me at the jail after working at the local community school and I have always said "They hired you after college because they realized they graduated you and forgot to teach you to how to spell!" I have loosened up (a tad bit) on her spelling mistakes though. Learning to pick my battles.

And after all of this ribbing, Dana has been and always will be right there for me. She has such a good heart and a good soul. Even in the worst of situations. Dana and I work very well together. We bounce off of each other. We dont even have to think about things. We just know what the other is going to do and we react to each other. We truly are a great team. And we have a special bond that I pray we never lose because it is hard to find a person you can be your grouchy, scared, pissed off self around and then turn around and see them smiling back at you, telling you not only is it ok to be those things, but that they still love you all the way through it. 

That's what I have with Dana and I hope she knows she has that with me.  This gal, her very soon-to-be husband Drew, their two precious babes, and all their little fur-babies are very close to my heart and I love them all like they are my own. 

As you all know, Im not normally like this. All mushy and squishy and soft. I dont like that. It is too emotional for me. Life is hard so I try to be a little harder around the edges. But today... *sigh* ...today I will be a little kinder, a little softer, and show my friends how much I love and support them. 

So, if you see me standing up there and a tear slides down my cheek, it is because Im excited and very happy for my girl. Happy she is getting the day she wants. 

I had a whole bunch of funny stuff built up to write about today but it just doesnt seem appropriate. Today isnt the day. Or I just need to start day drinking a little early! Then the words will flow!!! It's still early so we will just play that by ear!

Today is dedicated to you my friend. I cant wait to get this party started and get you started down this new journey in life. I love you and will always be here for you.